I think about the different tragedies in my life and all the struggles along the way and I realize again and again that it is up to me to find the good, to give the meaning, to accept and to move forward.
Finding the good is often the hardest part because that requires a certain kind of trust and belief that God knows what God is doing. God sees the big picture. I know my vision is limited.
Giving meaning to something bad that has happened is a very profound and personal experience. It emerges over time and rarely can be rushed. Sometimes we give meanings which are temporary so we can get us from one "space into another". Sometimes the meanings last forever. All are healing.
Acceptance is a daily practice and doesn't come without some work because it goes hand in hand with forgiveness. Practicing compassion is a also good way to cultivate acceptance.
Moving forward is another word for change and, as well all know, transition is hard. But moving forward is a positive change which is self-rewarding and helps build confidence. Positive action relieves anxiety, shows courage, earns respect and gives personal release.
Not all that happens in life is good but we can find that sliver of meaning, the tiny spark of hope and the seed for a new stalk of inspiration and bloom.